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Post by Nick on Aug 23, 2003 10:39:34 GMT -5
he is a gayer and we've kinda been out a couple of times but he's just not all the interested. but i don't know Keep at it. Unless you don't want to. It depends how strongly you feel about him. The current unrequited thing possesses me at least three times a minute, and leaves me prone to moments of great melodrama and excitement. To be honest, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't enjoying it. But after a bit, it stops being fun. |
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Post by Andrew* on Aug 23, 2003 10:47:25 GMT -5
Keep at it. Unless you don't want to. It depends how strongly you feel about him. The current unrequited thing possesses me at least three times a minute, and leaves me prone to moments of great melodrama and excitement. To be honest, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't enjoying it. But after a bit, it stops being fun. im the same for this guy at the moment. and i know he likes me, but i dont know how much. probably not as much as i like him. The problem is hes going away back to uni in september. which is in bath. quite far away from where i live. I really dont know what to do. If I get involved any further im just going to get moe upset when he leaves. But i dont feel like holding back. I mean you cant help your feelings. What should i do... |
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Post by indiehorse on Aug 23, 2003 10:47:39 GMT -5
Keep at it. Unless you don't want to. It depends how strongly you feel about him. i'm not actually sure how strongly i feel about him. i just kinda like the idea of having a boyfriend. |
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Post by Nick on Aug 23, 2003 10:55:01 GMT -5
im the same for this guy at the moment. and i know he likes me, but i dont know how much. probably not as much as i like him. The problem is hes going away back to uni in september. which is in bath. quite far away from where i live. I really dont know what to do. If I get involved any further im just going to get moe upset when he leaves. But i dont feel like holding back. I mean you cant help your feelings. What should i do... Bloody hell! Just go for it*. If he likes you back, what's the problem?! That's not unrequited love, that's just indecisive love. ;D My one's impossible to imagine working out, and he'll never know about it, anyway. And he scarcely even thinks about me (I imagine). Such fun...* Nick reserves the right to give potentially bad advice relating to Unrequited SeptemberTM. Although It's unlikely he will, but, y'know, no lawsuits, ok? |
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Post by Andrew* on Aug 23, 2003 11:03:30 GMT -5
My one's impossible to imagine working out, and he'll never know about it, anyway. And he scarcely even thinks about me (I imagine). Such fun...I know its not unrequited love. im not stupid Why don't you just ask your person out or something? Or have you already covered a reason why you havent done that? I dont think its healthy to dwell over a person alot. you have to make some sort of progress/advance. |
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Post by Nick on Aug 23, 2003 11:14:54 GMT -5
I know its not unrequited love. im not stupid Why don't you just ask your person out or something? Or have you already covered a reason why you havent done that? I dont think its healthy to dwell over a person alot. you have to make some sort of progress/advance. He has a partner. And scarcely registers my existence. Besides, it's not someone I see all the time at all - we've had limited contact, he's more of a friend of a couple of friends, and I tend to hear about him through them now, and very occasionally from him. It all feels very distant and unrealistic. Irritating, isn't it? I'm well aware that this makes me sound like a completely fixated lunatic.  |
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Post by Andrew* on Aug 23, 2003 11:21:22 GMT -5
I'm well aware that this makes me sound like a completely fixated lunatic. I dont think It makes you sound like that at all. I think it makes you sound like a human being. |
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Post by Andrew* on Aug 23, 2003 11:22:18 GMT -5
not that you didnt sound like one before you know what i mean... |
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Post by redrydler on Aug 23, 2003 15:49:51 GMT -5
For a few months I had a mild obsession with this bloke i kept seeing around. I'd see him in unlikely places, and even when i was in different cities. I decided he was an angel. I was sitting outside a bar one day, and pointed him out to a friend. I never saw him again.
Anyway... the line between unrequited love and stalking is indeed a fine one. Having been mildly stalked a couple of times, I've always managed to stay friends with stalkers.
In psych 101 terms, isn't it about sabotaging relationships? making do with the idea because you don't think you could handle the reality? Convincing yourself that someone doesn't like you/think of you/ that something would get to serious: all sabotage? or have I taken too much Trisha?
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Post by redrydler on Aug 23, 2003 15:51:13 GMT -5
jesus wept, that makes me sound crazy....
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Post by FairyCakes on Aug 23, 2003 16:38:08 GMT -5
Mines a friend, but i've kinda shot myself in the foot. He told me he really liked me when i was seeing someone else so i told him i didn't feel the same. But i really did and didn't want to cheat so i thought it be better if i just said no. I really like him but no...its not going to happen. bring on september... |
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Post by liseuse on Aug 23, 2003 16:58:30 GMT -5
well i've had an unrequited year so unrequited september shouldn't be too much of a hassle.
mine's straight and definitely not interested and a friend.
grrrrrrrrr.
i was hoping that not seeing her for six weeks would kind of rid me of it. but ... no! grrrrrrrrr.
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Post by Forgive Me Jenny Elly Moondial on Aug 23, 2003 19:39:41 GMT -5
Does everybody else have an object of their affection? Do they know? Do they even know who you are? Crap, isn't it? Oh yes. Yes, I think so, Yes, Definitely as I haven't seen her since Febraury. |
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Post by Ewok Expansion Team in Tank on Aug 24, 2003 0:24:38 GMT -5
How wondrous to stumble upon this topic at 6.16am after a night of definite constant unrequited love. Seeing as I will be around him for most of September I guess I'll sign up. [snip] Like you said Nick its not lust, its not even sexual really that would be so hugely secondary, I dont know what it is but yeah I guess its nice in a way as I get to say Fuck Sex & The City with regard to its "You only ever have one true love" episode which depressed me greatly. Seeing as I can't see it ever working out, I guess Im beginning to appreciate the difference between Being in love with someone and Being in love with someone. Its not the same thing at all and I do wonder what it must be like sometimes... Grrr and hmmf but at least there have been no tears, I must be getting stronger  |
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Post by Nick on Aug 24, 2003 4:36:22 GMT -5
Grrr and hmmf but at least there have been no tears, I must be getting stronger Yeah, but crying's very therapeutic. I can't really do it any more, unless something really bad happens, or I've spent the previous month getting worked-up about something. Then it all kind of erupts, and it's hugely embarrassing, but ace. I can't really cry on my own, though. There needs to be someone else there. I'm not sure why. Anyway, I'm not crying over this one, yet. I didn't cry over Luke until the evening after I left Exeter and... well, anyway, it's a very interesting story for me. But possibly not for any of you. ;D |
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